Spiritual Growth Is Messy: Shedding the Layers of Who You're Not

When most people think about spiritual growth, they imagine peace, stillness, and a graceful unfolding. A glowing aura, a calm voice, incense burning while meditating on a cushion in perfect serenity.

But if you’ve ever truly committed to your healing and spiritual journey… you know the truth:

Spiritual growth is anything but graceful. It’s messy. It’s painful. It breaks you open, so you can finally remember who you are.

🌪 The Breakdown Before the Breakthrough

Real growth isn’t about becoming something new. It’s about un-becoming everything you thought you had to be, the masks, the people-pleasing, the trauma patterns, the false identities, the survival roles.

That process? It’s uncomfortable. And often chaotic.

You may:

• Feel emotionally raw or hypersensitive

• Grieve the identities you clung to for years

• Lose relationships that were built on your old self

• Question everything you once believed

But that’s not a sign that something’s wrong.

That’s the sacred shedding.

🐍 The Shedding: Releasing What No Longer Serves

Just like a snake sheds its skin to grow, we must release old versions of ourselves. This might mean:

• Letting go of perfectionism

• Confronting shadow parts we’ve denied

• Facing buried emotions, we tried to avoid

• Saying “no” when we were taught to always say “yes”

And sometimes, healing doesn’t look “spiritual” at all.
It looks like crying on your bathroom floor.
It looks like being angry at a God you don’t understand.
It looks like sleeping too much, feeling lost, isolating yourself.

But here’s what I want you to know: those moments count. They are not detours. They are the work.

🌱 The Rebirth: Remembering Who You Are

Eventually, you begin to see glimpses of your truth beneath all the layers.

You start:

• Speaking up instead of shrinking down

• Choosing yourself, even when it’s hard

• Connecting to something greater, a deeper inner wisdom

• Loving the parts of you you used to hide

And suddenly, you realize: you didn’t grow into someone else. You came home to yourself.

That’s what spiritual growth really is.

Not the aesthetic — the awakening.

💬 Final Thoughts

If you’re in the thick of it right now, if it’s hard, if it’s ugly, if it feels like everything is falling apart — you are not broken. You’re breaking through.

Keep going. Keep shedding.

You are becoming more of who you’ve always been.

🔗 Ready to go deeper?

✨ Book a consultation call if you’re navigating your own spiritual shedding and want support. I offer events and sessions in Arizona and via telehealth!
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Healing from Toxic Relationships: Recognizing the Signs and Taking Back Your Power

If you’ve ever felt drained, anxious, or just plain unhappy after spending time with someone, whether it’s a partner, family member, or friend — you might be dealing with a toxic relationship. And you’re not alone.

Toxic relationships sneak in quietly. They might start with little red flags that seem easy to overlook, but over time, they chip away at your confidence, your peace, and your sense of self.

So, how do you know if a relationship is toxic? And more importantly, how do you begin to heal and reclaim your power? Let’s dive in.

What Does a Toxic Relationship Look Like?

Here are some common signs you might recognize:

• You constantly feel drained or anxious around this person.

• Your boundaries get ignored or pushed.

• You find yourself apologizing all the time, even when you haven’t done anything wrong.

• You’re afraid to express your true feelings because you worry about the reaction.

• You notice patterns of manipulation, guilt-tripping, or control.

• Your self-esteem takes a hit when you’re with or thinking about them.

If any of this sounds familiar, it’s a sign that this relationship is hurting you, not helping you grow.

Why Do We Stay in Toxic Relationships?

It’s natural to want connection and love, even if it’s not healthy. Sometimes we stay because:

• We hope the person will change.

• We fear being alone.

• We’ve learned unhealthy relationship patterns from childhood.

• We don’t fully realize how much damage it’s causing.

But staying can keep you stuck in a cycle of pain and self-doubt.

Taking Back Your Power: Steps to Healing

1. Acknowledge the Truth: Recognizing the relationship is toxic is the first brave step. Give yourself credit for this awareness.

2. Set Boundaries: Start small. Say no to things that don’t feel right. Your boundaries are your protection.

3. Practice Self-Compassion: Remind yourself that it’s okay to prioritize your well-being. You deserve kindness — especially from yourself.

4. Reach Out for Support: Healing doesn’t have to be solo. Whether it’s friends, family, or a therapist (that’s where I come in), having someone who understands can make all the difference.

5. Focus on Rebuilding Your Self-Esteem: Toxic relationships can erode your confidence, but you can rebuild it step by step. Celebrate small victories and remind yourself of your worth every day.

You Deserve Healthy, Loving Relationships

It’s hard to heal from toxic relationships on your own, but it’s possible, and it starts with you choosing yourself. When you commit to your healing journey, you open the door to relationships that lift you up, respect you, and nurture your soul.

If you’re ready to take back your power and heal from toxic patterns, I’m here to support you every step of the way.

Book a consultation call with me and let’s start your path to empowerment and peace.

I offer individual sessions online and, offer group events and retreats in Scottsdale, Arizona.

Remember, healing is a journey — and you don’t have to walk it alone.

Returning to Our Power: Reclaiming Women’s Sacred Worth

Returning to Our Power: Reclaiming Women’s Sacred Worth

From the beginning of time, women were seen as sacred. We were the creators, the nurturers, the givers of life — and because of that, we were worshipped.

Ancient cultures honored the divine feminine. Goddesses were often represented as symbols of fertility, wisdom, and creation itself. Women were seen as vessels of spirit, as the closest beings to the divine, not just because we could birth life, but because we were deeply connected to the cycles of nature, intuition, and healing.

But as patriarchal systems rose, this reverence shifted.

How the Patriarchy Separated Us From Ourselves

The sacred feminine was no longer celebrated — it was feared. And what is feared is often controlled.

Through colonization, religion, and cultural conditioning, women’s power was slowly diminished. We were told our worth was in our appearance. Our intuition was dismissed as irrational. Our sensuality was shamed. And worst of all, we were taught to compete with each other instead of rising together.

We were made to believe that if another woman shines, it somehow dims our light. That there isn’t enough space for all of us to thrive.
This lie has caused deep pain, and it’s time to unlearn it.

Coaching as a Sacred Journey Back to Self

In the work I do with women, whether one-on-one or in group spaces, we gently peel back the layers of stories and beliefs that were never ours to carry:

• “I’m not enough.”

• “I have to compete to be seen.”

• “I shouldn’t take up space.”

• “I have to earn my worth.”

These beliefs were built by systems designed to keep us small.
But you were never meant to be small.

In sessions, we explore your sacred inner truth — your power, your voice, your desires — and we begin to heal the parts of you that have forgotten how divine you really are.

We Rise Together

This is a calling back to your roots.
To your softness. Your strength. Your truth.

This is a reminder that you are not broken — you are becoming.

Let’s unlearn the lies and return to who you were before the world told you otherwise. Let’s rise, not alone, but together — as the powerful women we’ve always been.

Are you ready to reclaim your sacred power?

I offer virtual coaching sessions and hold events in the Phoenix area!

Book a free 15-minute consultation call with me!