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Tired of Taking Care of Everyone? A Survival Guide for the Emotionally Exhausted Woman
If you feel emotionally exhausted from always caring for others and never yourself, this post is for you. Learn how to break the cycle of self-abandonment and come back to your power.
You wake up already tired.
Not because you didn’t sleep well (though that’s true too),
but because the weight of everything you carry doesn’t disappear overnight.
The kids.
Your partner.
A sick parent.
Work responsibilities.
Text messages you don’t have the energy to respond to.
And somewhere, underneath it all…
you—barely visible in the blur of everything and everyone else.
If you’ve ever whispered to yourself,
“I just want to crawl into a hole and disappear for a while,”
this is for you.
💔 This Isn’t Just Exhaustion. It’s Self-Abandonment.
Many women were raised to believe their worth is measured by how much they can endure.
How much they can give.
How many pieces of themselves they can offer up without complaint.
You’ve learned to care for everyone—
often at the cost of your own body, boundaries, and mental health.
You say yes when your soul is screaming no.
You smile when you want to scream.
You push through when you need to fall apart.
And maybe no one sees it.
Because you’re so damn good at holding it together.
But let me say this clearly:
👉 Being everything for everyone is slowly draining the life out of you.
Not because you’re weak.
But because you’re human.
🧠 The Cycle: Give. Collapse. Shame. Repeat.
Here’s the trap so many women are stuck in:
You give and give until you crash.
You crash, feel numb, angry, resentful, or disappear emotionally.
You shame yourself for not keeping it all together.
You rally, promise to “do better,” and start over.
This isn’t strength.
This is survival mode.
You weren’t meant to live in this loop.
You were meant to thrive in your life, not just manage it.
✨ So How Do You Break the Cycle?
Not with a bubble bath.
(Not that there’s anything wrong with that.)
But with honest, often uncomfortable truth-telling.
You start by admitting:
I don’t feel okay.
I need help.
I’m not here just to take care of everyone else.
I want more for myself.
Then… you do the brave thing:
You learn how to return to yourself.
This is what healing looks like:
Reclaiming your time.
Saying no without guilt.
Letting others feel discomfort without rescuing them.
Learning to put your own emotional needs at the center—not the bottom.
💬 If This Is You… You’re Not Alone.
You’re not crazy. You’re not broken.
You’re not selfish for needing rest, softness, space, and support.
You are a woman who has been in survival for too long.
And you’re allowed to want a different way forward.
This is the work I do—with women who feel like they’re falling apart, but who are actually on the verge of coming back home to themselves.
If you’re reading this with tears in your eyes…
That’s not weakness. That’s truth showing up.
You can change the cycle.
And you don’t have to do it alone.
💌 Want to Start Healing?
If this spoke to something deep inside you, I invite you to book a free clarity call or learn more about my 1:1 trauma‑informed coaching. I offer sessions online and in Arizona.
You are allowed to rest. You are allowed to receive. You are allowed to reclaim your life.
Frequently Asked Questions
Why do I feel guilty when I take care of myself?
Because you've been taught your worth comes from what you give, not from who you are. Guilt often signals a deeper trauma pattern, not a moral failing.
How can I stop taking care of everyone else?
Start small: build one boundary, listen to your own needs, and say “no” when your soul whispers it. You don’t need to shut everything off; just begin untangling one thread at a time.
What is trauma‑informed coaching?
It’s a healing space that helps you safely explore your patterns, build emotional resilience, and reconnect with your true self, without judgment or pressure to “fix” it all at once.
Spiritual Growth Is Messy: Shedding the Layers of Who You're Not
When most people think about spiritual growth, they imagine peace, stillness, and a graceful unfolding. A glowing aura, a calm voice, incense burning while meditating on a cushion in perfect serenity.
But if you’ve ever truly committed to your healing and spiritual journey… you know the truth:
Spiritual growth is anything but graceful. It’s messy. It’s painful. It breaks you open, so you can finally remember who you are.
🌪 The Breakdown Before the Breakthrough
Real growth isn’t about becoming something new. It’s about un-becoming everything you thought you had to be, the masks, the people-pleasing, the trauma patterns, the false identities, the survival roles.
That process? It’s uncomfortable. And often chaotic.
You may:
Feel emotionally raw or hypersensitive
Grieve the identities you clung to for years
Lose relationships that were built on your old self
Question everything you once believed
But that’s not a sign that something’s wrong.
That’s the sacred shedding.
🐍 The Shedding: Releasing What No Longer Serves
Just like a snake sheds its skin to grow, we must release old versions of ourselves. This might mean:
Letting go of perfectionism
Confronting shadow parts we’ve denied
Facing buried emotions, we tried to avoid
Saying “no” when we were taught to always say “yes”
And sometimes, healing doesn’t look “spiritual” at all.
It looks like crying on your bathroom floor.
It looks like being angry at a God you don’t understand.
It looks like sleeping too much, feeling lost, isolating yourself.
But here’s what I want you to know: those moments count. They are not detours. They are the work.
🌱 The Rebirth: Remembering Who You Are
Eventually, you begin to see glimpses of your truth beneath all the layers.
You start:
Speaking up instead of shrinking down
Choosing yourself, even when it’s hard
Connecting to something greater, a deeper inner wisdom
Loving the parts of you you used to hide
And suddenly, you realize: you didn’t grow into someone else. You came home to yourself.
That’s what spiritual growth really is.
Not the aesthetic — the awakening.
💬 Final Thoughts
If you’re in the thick of it right now, if it’s hard, if it’s ugly, if it feels like everything is falling apart — you are not broken. You’re breaking through.
Keep going. Keep shedding.
You are becoming more of who you’ve always been.
🔗 Ready to go deeper?
✨ Book a consultation call if you’re navigating your own spiritual shedding and want support. I offer events and sessions in Arizona and via telehealth!
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Healing from Toxic Relationships: Recognizing the Signs and Taking Back Your Power
If you’ve ever felt drained, anxious, or just plain unhappy after spending time with someone, whether it’s a partner, family member, or friend — you might be dealing with a toxic relationship. And you’re not alone.
Toxic relationships sneak in quietly. They might start with little red flags that seem easy to overlook, but over time, they chip away at your confidence, your peace, and your sense of self.
So, how do you know if a relationship is toxic? And more importantly, how do you begin to heal and reclaim your power? Let’s dive in.
What Does a Toxic Relationship Look Like?
Here are some common signs you might recognize:
You constantly feel drained or anxious around this person.
Your boundaries get ignored or pushed.
You find yourself apologizing all the time, even when you haven’t done anything wrong.
You’re afraid to express your true feelings because you worry about the reaction.
You notice patterns of manipulation, guilt-tripping, or control.
Your self-esteem takes a hit when you’re with or thinking about them.
If any of this sounds familiar, it’s a sign that this relationship is hurting you, not helping you grow.
Why Do We Stay in Toxic Relationships?
It’s natural to want connection and love, even if it’s not healthy. Sometimes we stay because:
We hope the person will change.
We fear being alone.
We’ve learned unhealthy relationship patterns from childhood.
We don’t fully realize how much damage it’s causing.
But staying can keep you stuck in a cycle of pain and self-doubt.
Taking Back Your Power: Steps to Healing
Acknowledge the Truth: Recognizing the relationship is toxic is the first brave step. Give yourself credit for this awareness.
Set Boundaries: Start small. Say no to things that don’t feel right. Your boundaries are your protection.
Practice Self-Compassion: Remind yourself that it’s okay to prioritize your well-being. You deserve kindness — especially from yourself.
Reach Out for Support: Healing doesn’t have to be solo. Whether it’s friends, family, or a therapist (that’s where I come in), having someone who understands can make all the difference.
Focus on Rebuilding Your Self-Esteem: Toxic relationships can erode your confidence, but you can rebuild it step by step. Celebrate small victories and remind yourself of your worth every day.
You Deserve Healthy, Loving Relationships
It’s hard to heal from toxic relationships on your own, but it’s possible, and it starts with you choosing yourself. When you commit to your healing journey, you open the door to relationships that lift you up, respect you, and nurture your soul.
If you’re ready to take back your power and heal from toxic patterns, I’m here to support you every step of the way.
Book a consultation call with me and let’s start your path to empowerment and peace.
I offer individual sessions online and, offer group events and retreats in Scottsdale, Arizona.
Remember, healing is a journey — and you don’t have to walk it alone.
How Childhood Trauma Can Impact Your Self-Esteem and Relationships — And What You Can Do About It
How childhood trauma can affect your self-esteem and relationships, and what you can do about it
If you’ve ever wondered why your relationships sometimes feel like a rollercoaster, full of confusion, pain, or distance, you’re definitely not alone. A lot of us carry invisible wounds from childhood trauma that shape how we see ourselves and how we connect with others.
I want to talk with you about how those early experiences impact your self-esteem and your attachment style, and ultimately, how you show up in your relationships today. More importantly, I want you to know there’s hope for healing.
What Is Childhood Trauma, Anyway?
Childhood trauma can be anything from feeling ignored, abandoned, or unsafe as a kid — maybe it was abuse, neglect, or just growing up in an unpredictable environment. What matters is that those early years create deep impressions on your emotional world.
Your brain and heart learn how to cope, often by protecting yourself in ways that made sense back then, but don’t always serve you now.
How Trauma Affects Your Self-Esteem
When you grow up feeling unloved or unheard, it’s easy to start believing things like: “I’m not good enough,” “I’m unworthy of love,” or “There’s something wrong with me.” These thoughts stick around, even into adulthood.
Low self-esteem shows up in many ways: maybe you struggle to speak up, doubt your worth, or stay stuck in unhealthy patterns because deep down you don’t feel you deserve better.
Attachment Styles — Why You Relate the Way You Do
Attachment is just a fancy word for how you connect to others, especially those closest to you. When your early caregivers weren’t consistent or safe, it can create different attachment styles:
Anxious: You crave closeness but fear being abandoned.
Avoidant: You push people away because intimacy feels unsafe.
Disorganized: You feel stuck between wanting connection and fearing it.
None of these styles are “wrong” — they’re survival strategies your younger self developed. But they can cause challenges in adult relationships, like trust issues, jealousy, or emotional distance.
How This Plays Out in Your Relationships
If you’re struggling with self-esteem and attachment wounds, your relationships might feel like a constant tug-of-war — wanting closeness but also feeling scared, or settling for less than you deserve because you don’t feel worthy of better.
This can lead to patterns of repeating painful dynamics or feeling lonely even when you’re with someone.
Healing Is Possible — And You Don’t Have to Do It Alone
Here’s the good news: healing from childhood trauma and building healthy self-esteem and attachments is possible. It takes courage, patience, and the right support.
That’s where I come in. Together, we can gently unpack those old wounds, rewrite the stories you tell yourself, and help you build stronger, more loving connections, starting with how you relate to yourself.
If you’re ready to take that next step toward healing and empowerment, I’m here for you. Let’s connect and start your journey. I offer individual sessions online, as well as hold retreats and sacred circles in Phoenix, Arizona.
Book a consultation call with me because you deserve to heal and thrive!
Returning to Our Power: Reclaiming Women’s Sacred Worth
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Returning to Our Power: Reclaiming Women’s Sacred Worth
From the beginning of time, women were seen as sacred. We were the creators, the nurturers, the givers of life — and because of that, we were worshipped.
Ancient cultures honored the divine feminine. Goddesses were often represented as symbols of fertility, wisdom, and creation itself. Women were seen as vessels of spirit, as the closest beings to the divine, not just because we could birth life, but because we were deeply connected to the cycles of nature, intuition, and healing.
But as patriarchal systems rose, this reverence shifted.
How the Patriarchy Separated Us From Ourselves
The sacred feminine was no longer celebrated — it was feared. And what is feared is often controlled.
Through colonization, religion, and cultural conditioning, women’s power was slowly diminished. We were told our worth was in our appearance. Our intuition was dismissed as irrational. Our sensuality was shamed. And worst of all, we were taught to compete with each other instead of rising together.
We were made to believe that if another woman shines, it somehow dims our light. That there isn’t enough space for all of us to thrive.
This lie has caused deep pain, and it’s time to unlearn it.
Coaching as a Sacred Journey Back to Self
In the work I do with women, whether one-on-one or in group spaces, we gently peel back the layers of stories and beliefs that were never ours to carry:
“I’m not enough.”
“I have to compete to be seen.”
“I shouldn’t take up space.”
“I have to earn my worth.”
These beliefs were built by systems designed to keep us small.
But you were never meant to be small.
In sessions, we explore your sacred inner truth — your power, your voice, your desires — and we begin to heal the parts of you that have forgotten how divine you really are.
We Rise Together
This is a calling back to your roots.
To your softness. Your strength. Your truth.
This is a reminder that you are not broken — you are becoming.
Let’s unlearn the lies and return to who you were before the world told you otherwise. Let’s rise, not alone, but together — as the powerful women we’ve always been.
Are you ready to reclaim your sacred power?
I offer virtual coaching sessions and hold events in the Phoenix area!